“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
- Galatians 5:22-23
We end the list of the fruit of the Spirit with a word that touches nearly every area of daily life: self-control. In many ways, self-control feels like the most practical and the most challenging of the list. It meets us in our habits, our reactions, our appetites, our words, our screens, our spending, our tempers, our time, and our choices when no one else is watching.
We live in a culture of excess – excess noise, options, consumption, distractions, and indulgence – and yet Scripture invites us into a different way of life. Scripture invites us not to a life of restriction for its own sake, but one of freedom through surrender. Self-control is not about suppressing life; it is about ordering life under the lordship of Christ.
Biblical self-control is the idea of mastery over oneself, restraint, disciplined living, and strength over desires and impulses. We are to say no when temptation calls, yes when obedience feels costly, wait when impatience increases, and enough when we’re tempted by excess. Self-control is not self-reliance; it is dependence on the Holy Spirit. It is the power of God working within us to align our desires with His will.
Scripture consistently ties self-control to wisdom, maturity, and godliness. Proverbs 25:28 says, “Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.” Titus 2:11-12 says, “For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say ‘no’ to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.” Second Timothy 1:7 says, “God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power, love, and self-discipline.” Self-control protects us. It guards our hearts, strengthens our witness, and leads us toward freedom, not bondage. Without self-control, even good gifts can become destructive idols.
Jesus lived a life of perfect obedience and holy restraint, never once failing in His self-control. He resisted temptation in the wilderness. He chose obedience over comfort. He restrained His power instead of using it for selfish gain. He controlled His tongue before His accusers. He submitted to the Father’s will, even unto death. At any moment, Jesus could have called down angels to rescue Him, yet He chose the cross. That is self-control at its highest expression: choosing God’s will over personal desire, even when it costs everything.
However, self-control is challenging because it pushes against instant gratification. It goes against acting out our initial emotional reactions. It defies cultural pressure and our fleshly desires to “do what feels good.” It fights against entitlement and spiritual laziness. We often see self-control as denying our desires, but in reality, it’s all about redirecting our desires toward the things of God.
The practice of self-control should touch our lives in many ways. It should shape how we speak – resisting gossip, choosing gentleness over sarcasm, pausing before responding in anger, and speaking truth with love. It should shape our emotions, helping us respond with grace rather than react immediately. It does not deny emotions but submits them to Christ. Self-control should honor God with our bodies and our physical lives: what we consume, how we rest, and caring for our health. Self-control helps us take control of our screens, schedules, commitments, and distractions, guiding us to choose what matters most.
The world sees discipline as limiting, but in God’s eyes, discipline brings freedom and liberation. A life without self-control is chaotic and enslaved to impulses that come and go, while a life controlled by the Holy Spirit is steady, purposeful, and free. It frees us to live the life for which God designed us, not the life that our impulses and desires of the flesh demand.
Because self-control is a fruit of the Spirit, it grows as we walk closely with God. We need to focus on transforming and renewing our minds to focus on the desires of the Holy Spirit. Practice small acts of obedience, as self-control grows through daily decisions, not dramatic moments. Seek accountability in all of this, as God often uses others to strengthen our self-discipline. Recognize that we will fail at self-control, but failure is not the end. God’s grace restores and strengthens us, allowing us to always try one more time.
Ask yourself, where do you struggle most with self-control? What habits shape your daily life for good or for harm? How might greater self-control lead to deeper freedom? What small step of discipline is God inviting you to take this week?
As I close this series on the fruit of the Spirit, remember this truth: Fruit is not produced by striving; it is produced by abiding in the Holy Spirit. The fruit of the Spirit is not a checklist to complete but a life to cultivate. As we walk daily with Christ, surrender to the Spirit, and trust God’s transforming work, these qualities grow in us slowly, steadily, and beautifully: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
May your life bear much fruit, for your good, for the good of others, and for the glory of God.
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